About Our Weddings

Some context for contrasting our Weddings from Others.

OUR MISSION

1Loudounweddings was created to fill a need in the wedding market. Couples have plenty of options from which to choose, if they are familiar with their community resources – churches, wedding rentals, ministers or officiants. However, many modern couples feel estranged from religion, the church and its teachings. Yet, they wish to commemorate their special occasion in a personally meaningful and unique way. They wish for a ceremony that one that validates their true identity and reflects their beliefs and shared history. and feels “sacred”


1Loudounweddings was created to step into the gap for such couples. We are the option to consider when you want a personalized and authentic experience. From the early stages of planning to the execution of the ceremony, we wish to be reliable and available partners to help create this tailor-made celebration throughout the process. We are not wedding planners, but we provide the core substance of the wedding, the actual ceremony where “the two shall become one”, husband and wife.


OUR PROCESS


Your first visit is always complimentary. It is important that you and the officiant/celebrant are comfortable with each other to begin the creative journey toward the wedding date. If you do choose our services, we will build the ceremony together until we all are satisfied. We will suggest, write, revise and finalize the script, which will include your dreams, wishes and hopes. Dr. Mitsutomi, our officiant, will share an inspirational talk or message. Our ultimate goal is to create an experience for you that you will cherish forever. Your wedding ceremony will be unlike any other.


We believe that sufficient time before the wedding is crucial for us to understand who you are and who you want to be once married. We recommend you choose our full package which includes planning and counseling. An additional service we provide is financial planning session with our own guru, Dr. Platt. His credentials speak for themselves.


And, finally, if so requested, we can gift you with a wedding song which was written just for you. The song would tell your special love story. It would be uniquely yours, a living testament of the love that brought you together. This song would be forever yours and yours alone. If you so wish, Dr. Mitsutomi could perform the song during the ceremony so that your guests could hear it as well.


BRIEF OVERVIEW OF WEDDINGS


Weddings in all cultures and religions are a time of celebration and signify a rite of passage for the bride and groom and their families. Wedding ceremonies mirror the beliefs and values of the couples’ culture. Some weddings are short while others may last days. The number of quests or witnesses may be as few as two. In other societies the entire community or village may be invited. Usually the marriage celebration involves the consumption of food and drink, and the couple is usually dressed in festive attire.


Western history documents that more than 4,000 years ago, the ancients in the Middle East had developed rituals to unite a man and a woman in a public setting to announce the change of status for both individuals. The purpose of marriage in the past was always practical, which was to secure family liaisons, protect property and bloodlines, and to perpetuate the continuation of the species. Marriages were typically arranged, and the bride and groom entered the union typically without a say of their own. This practice is still prevalent in various cultural groups throughout the world.


The notion of romantic love in the West appears to have its origin in the Middle Ages. Evidently the 12th century court troubadours sang of love in a way that resembles our modern tributes to love. Of course, marriage ceremonies have evolved and diversified over time. The substantive portion, however, has remained the same: the man and the woman became partners to begin a family of their own and to remain together for the rest of their lives. The nearly universal symbol used to seal the union was the wearing of a ring. Its roundness was seen to represent an eternal, unbroken bond between the marriage partners.


Different world religions have developed their own wedding traditions, and to the learned eye, they are clearly distinguishable one from another. But, all the customs and practices used in weddings reflect the same intention of ceremonially tying two people together. Shinto, Muslim and Hindu weddings are vastly different, but each has its uniquely beautiful and traditional way of publically demonstrating the new and most special union between a man and a woman.


It is interesting that Christian weddings also vary tremendously due to the vast number of churches located in all corners of the world. The oldest formal Christian traditions (Catholic and Orthodox) and some early Protestant churches (eg., Lutheran, Presbyterian, Anglican, etc.) adhere to a rather traditional and “fixed” format; wedding ceremonies are considered to be an integral part of the church service or mass. More recently risen Christian groups offer more flexibility in the format and order of the ceremony.


WEDDING SCRIPTS


Most weddings follow a scripted format. The less formal the ceremony, the more input the bride and groom give to the order and scripting of the ceremony. They may choose to adopt (or adapt) an existing version, or they may choose to write their own ceremony in its entirety. We are here to facilitate the process: discuss the goals, write, rewrite, edit, and finalize the script that most suits the temparement and personality of the couple.


The following is a sampling of scripts to show the bride and groom the variation in style and format. Weddingforward.com is the source for some of the scripts.


NON-RELIGIOUS AND SECULAR WEDDINGS


Weddings that are conducted without a religious flavor can still be intimate, sacred and beautiful. Besides the vows, the core of the ceremony can be short or long and include any meaningful elements for the couple. For those in a great hurry, the short form might suffice. We prefer more content.


Short Form Vows


Bride and Groom:


I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, (Name) do take you, (Name), to be my lawful wedded (wife/husband/spouse/partner). And I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad. I give you my hand, my heart and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.


Officiant:


(Name) and (Name) in as much as you have pledged yourself, one to the other, by the exchanging of vows and rings I, [Name of Officiant] , by virtue of the powers vested in me by the Marriage Act, do hereby pronounce you (Name) and (Name) to be married. You may exchange a kiss as a token of your joy


Long Form Vows


Officiant:


Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today (tonight) to join this man


and this woman in (holy) matrimony.


Exchange of Vows


(Name), do you take this woman to be your wife, to live


together in sacred matrimony, to love her, to honor her, to comfort her, and to keep her


in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, for as long as you both shall live?


I do


(Name), do you take this man to be your husband, to live


together in (holy) matrimony, to love him, to honor him, to comfort him, and to keep


him in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, for as long as you both shall live? I do.


I, (Name) take you (Name), to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.


I, (Name), take you (Name), to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.


Exchange of Rings


I give you this ring as a token and pledge of our constant faith in each other and our abiding love.


Pronouncement


By virtue of the authority vested in me under the laws of____, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride.


Alternate Vows


Invitation


Friends, we have been invited here today to share with (Name) and (Name) a very important moment in their lives. In the years they have been together, their love and understanding of each other have grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives together as husband/wife and wife/husband.


Wedding readings


We come now to the words (Name) and (Name) want to hear the most today…the words that take them across the threshold from being engaged to being married.


A marriage, as most of us understand it, is a voluntary and full commitment. It is made in the deepest sense to the exclusion of all others, and it is entered into with the desire and hope that it will last for life.


Before you declare your vows to one another, please confirm that it is indeed your intention to be married today.


(Name), do you come here freely and without reservation to give yourself to (Name) in marriage? If so, answer “I do.”


Wedding Vows/Exchanges


TBA


Closing Remarks, Pronouncement, Kiss and Processional


By the power vested in me by the state of _______, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now kiss.


TRADITIONAL CHRISTIAN WEDDINGS


Welcome and introduction


Marriage is a gift from God, given to us so that we might experience the joys of unconditional love with a lifelong partner. God designed marriage to be an intimate relationship between a man and a woman.


Biblical Reading


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


– 1 Corinthians: 13


Declaration of Intent


Who gives (Name) to be married to (Name)?


Sharing Of Vows


I, (Name), take thee, (Name), / to be my wedded husband, / to have and to hold / from this day forward, / for better, for worse, / for richer, for poorer, / in sickness and in health, / to love and to cherish, / till death do us part. / This is my solemn vow.


Ring Exchange


May I have the token of Groom’s/Bride’s love for (Name)?


This ring I give in token and pledge / as a sign of my love and devotion. /


With this ring, I thee wed (archaic English).


Prayers and Blessings


Lord, You guided them to each other, now guide them in this new journey as husband and wife. As they walk down this path, light their way so they may keep their eyes focused on Your will, their hands holding fast to Your truth, their feet firmly planted in Your Word, and their hearts bound together by Your love. This we pray in Your name. Amen.


The Pronouncement and the kiss


(Name) and (Name), since you have consented together in holy matrimony, and have pledged yourselves to each other by your solemn vows and by the giving of rings, and have declared your commitment of love before God and these witnesses, I now pronounce you husband and wife in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Those whom God hath joined together, let no man separate.


(Name), you may kiss your Bride.


PROTESTANT WEDDINGS


The Introductory Prayer


Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this man and this woman in Holy Matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding in Canaan of Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His Church, and Holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.


The union of husband and wife is intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity; and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.


The Declaration of Intention/Interrogation


Into this union (Name) and (Name) now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.


To the bride and groom: I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God’s Word, do now confess it.


One at a time, to the bride/groom: (Name), will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband; to live together with her/him in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto her/him as long as you both shall live?


Individually they reply: I will.


To the congregation: Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?


The congregation replies: We will.


The Presentation


Who gives this woman to be married to this man?


She gives herself, with the blessing of her mother and father.


The Vows


In the name of God, I, (Name), take you, (Name), to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.


The Blessing and Exchange of Rings


Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this man and this woman have bound themselves to each other; through Jesus Christ our Lord.


(The Bride and Groom place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:)


I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.


Now that (Name) and (Name) have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce that they are husband and wife, in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those whom God has joined together, let no one put asunder.


Amen


Concluding Prayers


(All:)


Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy Name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.


(Name) and (Name), having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as husband and wife. You may kiss the bride.


SAMPLE OFFICIANT MESSAGE


This is an excerpt of the message delivered in a crosscultural wedding ceremony. After the processional, welcoming of guests, and introductory remarks, Dr. Mitsutomi’s focus was on the word love itself. She shared the meaning of the Japanese character for love, explaining each of the four radicals in the character. The entire wedding was Zoomed to Japan to the bride’s parents.


The Japanese character for love — AI — is written in 13 separate strokes. This character is difficult not only because of the number of strokes but also because each stroke needs to be written in the right order.


This complex character for love consists of four separate components, each with its own meaning. This is the order from top to bottom: “claw”/”nail”, “house” or “roof of the house”, “heart”, and finally “friend”.


This is my imagination as to how the characters were chosen:


GRAB/GRIP


First, you grab your love interes into your claws – you hang on tooth and nail – and you keep doing that until you are sure you can explore the journey from there.


Many potential couples quit right here.


The “holding on” process between the bride and groom has covered thousands of miles of travel over several years.


HOUSE/ROOF


Lei and Bryce have a “Roof” they share as their family.


It is not enough to live in the same household for love to grow. You need to be able to share your love, your true self, your vulnerability


HEART


The third component in the character is that of “heart”. WITHOUT OPENING YOURSELF TO LET THE OTHER IN, THERE IS NO CHANCE FOR LOVE.


FRIENDSHIP


Finally, you become friends, true friends. And that is the bottom radical, the fourth one , in the character of love.


The Greek language has 3 words for love:


EROS – sexual love


FILIA – love of a close friend


AGAPE – divine love


A truly loving marriage is clearly more than a partnership. It is a legal and a public commitment of two hearts, declaring to be equal participants in domestic, social, physical, cultural, and spiritual affairs. It is the fusion of two hearts, the union of two lives, the coming together of two individuals – each of whom is already complete without the other.


Pursue this kind love — it comes from the Source. To master it, it will surely take a lifetime